Rotting From the Roots

Sat down at the PC to start writing and remembered a) the mouse isn’t working and b) the top tool bar on word keeps appearing and disappearing and I can’t work out how to fix it. Weell… actually, after a few more minutes of trying the View tab and other things, I Googled it and found out that if I right click on the home tab it gives me a drop-down including ‘Minimize the ribbon’ which was ticked, so I unticked it and that worked. The first suggestion: press Ctrl F1, was stymied by the fact that I can’t see ‘F1’ on my keyboard. Don’t know how it got ticked in the first place, but I suspect it happened when I was thrashing around trying to get the mouse to work.

I suspect the mouse just needs a new battery, but spare batteries are downstairs and the mouse is upstairs, and by the time I got downstairs I’d forgotten I needed to get them. If I remember, I could take the mouse down when I go and do it then, but that would rely on me remembering to take it, remembering what I’d taken it for, then remembering to bring it back up again. For now, I’m getting more practised at using the touch pad.

Today, I feel the way this poinsettia looks. I used to buy a poinsettia every year, and this is how they always ended up looking. I think it’s down to over-watering – but you only have to do it once and there’s no getting back from the slippery slope. I’m always a bit erratic with my watering regime, I guess it’s to do with short term memory and lack of awareness. Some things die from lack of water, which is recoverable-from if you notice in time, but there’s no way back from over-watering.

I can tell you exactly how long I’ve had this one, because I bought it the day we went into Tier 3, the Thursday before Christmas. I know, because it was the day I took my cards to the post office and checked the local shops for a small turkey joint, then bought a little Christmas tree and this poinsettia on the way home. Then my family persuaded me to go to them for Christmas anyway, by promising to come and get me and bring me back, then two days later we went in Tier 4 and the plan changed again (but you already know that story).

In other words, this poor plant has been in my care for less than a fortnight, and this is what I’ve done to it.

However, that’s not why I’m feeling droopy, as though I’m rotting from my roots. It’s just that I woke up that way, as often happens. Maybe it’s because I’m always rotting from my roots, and I’m not sure whether there’s any way back from that. Well, nothing permanent, as far as I can tell, but at least I’m not actually dead yet.

Creative Endeavours

Last evening my cat and I huddled together listening to the storm, which shares its name with my eldest great-niece. This morning all is calm, and the sky, though pale, is mostly clear with patches of cloud, rather than the other way round. Whether Bella has spent her wrath on us, or is rampaging further up the country, I couldn’t say.

Worryingly, when I switched my computer on this morning, it didn’t show the Windows log on screen. I thought I was going to have to go downstairs and type this on my laptop, but after a few rounds of switching off and on again, it slowly and reluctantly opened up, though is still running more slowly than usual, so there’s a delay between my typing and its appearance on the screen.

Two days before Christmas, I finished off a crochet cardi which I’d started before my daughter’s Christmas jumper, and which had been hanging around waiting to be finished. It didn’t work out quite as well as I hoped, and I knew I was going to need a new project over Christmas, so have been thinking about it and planning, and started knitting on Christmas Eve, with a couple of false starts and re-starts since. It’s another one that I’m making up as I go along, a jumper using the same top-down techniques and mainly the same yarn as the Christmas one (I bought way too much) but I’m changing the neck and obviously won’t be doing any Christmas motifs, but a sort of fair-isle pattern, which I’m working out on squared paper, and for which I will use partly white yarn and partly a variegated yarn that I bought during the first lockdown. We’ll see how it goes. If I do finish it, I probably won’t wear it, because I don’t like jumpers, I prefer cardigans that are easy to take off and put on, but that’s not really the point anyway – the point is the process of making.

As a way of channelling creativity, it’s maybe not as highbrow as writing a novel or artistic as painting and drawing, but equally it’s not as challenging or stressful. There is of course a whole debate about the boundaries between craft and art, and the downgrading of skills which are stereotypically seen as ‘women’s work’, which I’m too weary to engage with at the moment. My discovery last week of abandoned sketch books containing my abortive and depressing attempts to produce visual art has led me once again back to wondering if I should make more efforts in that direction. I have drawers full of materials (mostly dried up and useless) and shelves full of books leftover from past attempts, and I wonder if I should try again, but I think I’ll stick to knitting.

Here’s one of the poems I found in the sketchbooks, written in coloured pencils, different colours for the different stanzas:

I draw flowers.
These are all I know.
They are not real, just sketches of shapes.

And on the back, I find
the beginnings of a painting,
house roofs, sky,
the empty outlines of a tree,
I scrape the brown pencil
over the ridges of the paper,
colouring in.

This is nonsense.
I channel words,
that’s all I can do.

I cannot draw, I cannot paint,
I cannot love, I cannot write,
I cannot tell you how I feel.

Linda Rushby, date unknown, probably 2015?

Tiers Before Bedtime

I started by saying: it’ll be fine. Whatever happens, I’ll be okay. Either way.

Then we went into Tier 3. And I thought: okay, that’s the way it’s going to be. I’ll manage, it’ll be fine, in a way it’s a relief. The decision is made. Just a shame I can’t find anything nice to cook for Christmas dinner. But hey, it’ll be okay.

Then my family had different ideas, and they made a plan, so I could still go, still be with them, still see them all. And I thought: aww, they really care, they really love me, they don’t want me to be alone and miss out. Bless them. That’s the way it’s going to be.

Then we went into Tier 4 and the goalposts moved. And I thought, okay, so this is the way it is after all. I’ll deal with it.

Can I get round the rules by having a ‘support bubble’ that I have to travel 140 miles to be with? Or even 50 miles, if they’re in Tier 2? Can I travel out of the area? Do I want to be the person who goes from Tier 4 into Tier 2, even if I’m going there and back in a day? Can I justify that? Is a ‘support bubble’ equivalent to a household, when it’s not just around the corner? Do I break the rules on the basis that ‘they can’t check every house…’ as someone (no names) suggested to me? Wouldn’t that make me part of the problem? And if I stayed away, and needed the catsitter to come in, where would they stand? Even if they weren’t strictly breaking the rules, they’d know I was, and what would their position be?

Enough. I don’t want to break any rules, or take any risks, or put anyone else at risk.

I think perhaps, because I’ve had so many times in my life when I’ve been unhappy and not been able to share it with anybody, and had to carry on and appear ‘fine, okay’ when I deeply wasn’t, even my nearest and dearest don’t realise how used I am to having to deal with a degree of sadness and disappointment that makes Christmas on my own seem trivial by comparison. I’m not saying I wouldn’t enjoy being with my family on Christmas Day, but it won’t destroy me. I’m not saying I won’t have to shed a few tears, just as I did on my birthday – as I have done already several times in the last twenty four hours. But it will come and it will go, and it won’t be the worst thing that could happen, and even if – as I said the other day – it turns out to be my last Christmas, well, it won’t be greatest regret.

If you pin your hopes on one thing – a particular day, a particular person, a particular wish – you’re setting yourself up for a lifetime of disappointment. Take it from someone who knows.