Walking the other way, the way I used to go every Monday morning, towards the leisure centre and the now defunct swimming pool.
The wind is coming from the sea and right up my street, the way it wasn’t on Friday. More wind means more waves and that’s more usual than Friday’s calm. Even in the Rock Gardens, which always used to be a haven, I can still feel it, or at least hear it. A flock of pigeons skitters in the sky, crossing each other’s paths then dispersing in a shower of squawks. A ribbon of toilet paper flutters across the path, but later it seems miraculously to have been blown into a ball, wedged against a rock marking the edge of a flower bed.
Before I left home, the weather app promised me no rain for at least 60 minutes, so why can I feel splashes on my face, too far from the beach to be spray?
I glance at my watch: 8.25, half an hour till the cafes open, so I head for the shelter on the prom. Is it raining? I still can’t tell, the clouds are grey enough, and the gulls are flying high, circling against their dark backdrop. The flagpole outside the Lifeguard Station keeps up its tattoo of rope against metal as the waves continue to roar majestically, and the sun reappears, silvering the surface. I watch someone from the cafe pushing a sack-barrow, moving a plant pot to the edge of the seating area – it must have been moved to safety overnight to stop it being blown over.
When I step outside the shelter, the wind comes back again, full force. I walk back to the Rock Gardens, to the bench where I was before, still no rain, and I notice how close it is to the fish pond, which I had my back to before, so didn’t consider as a source for the droplets.
I think I’ll wait for the cafe to open at nine, then realise that I’d still have to sit outside on the prom to eat my breakfast, so give up and walk home.
I read this on the Dyspraxia Facebook group:
I’m done with shame and feeling sorry for myself. I will no longer apologise and be a victim to it. You don’t see a wheelchair user apologise for using a chair. So why should we apologise for how our wires connect in our brain ? Which is outside of our control. We either work with it or struggle against it. Either way we owe no one an apology for how we’re wired.
At first reading I felt irritated by it, because after all, shame, apologising and self-pity have been a way of life for me. Looking at it again, I can see it’s not a personal attack on me, in fact it’s a perfectly sensible attitude, but somehow it struck a nerve, maybe because I’ve always judged myself on those criteria and come up wanting.